How to be happy

‘All unhappiness comes from trying to make ourself happy and all happiness is derived from assisting another to be happy’ – Shantideva.

 

Happiness is a feeling that arises naturally when we assist another to be happy. In order to feel happy we must first be able to feel what is happening within our body. When we develop our capacity to feel then happiness is inevitable within our life. It is inevitable because it comes from something that will never decline in importance… it comes from giving.

 

Happiness is not a thing that can be held or an achievement that can be won by ourself as an individual, it is a feeling that must be felt by all of us as a collective. When we choose not to develop our capacity to feel we inevitably choose to search for happiness in the physical world. This search is expressed as a desire for specific possessions, circumstances and events to occur within our life. When we search for happiness in the physical world we are searching for an individual happiness which can never truly be felt.

 

Human beings who love human beings are the happiest human beings in the world. When we love another we naturally assist them in any way that we can; when we assist another to have what they want within their life we are assisting them to feel happy. When we love we give and when we truly give, with an open heart, the feeling of happiness is what we receive. But not only do we receive the feeling of happiness when we love; we also receive physical, mental and emotional support in achieving whatever we want within our life.

 

As human beings we have a natural inclination towards happiness. This inclination is stifled when we do not choose to cultivate our capacity to feel. If we do not develop our capacity to feel we inevitably experience disconnection. This disconnection is then expressed out into our life as a desire for individual happiness which can never be achieved. As we cultivate our capacity to feel we experience connection with ourself, another and all of life. When we experience connection we feel love. When we feel love for another human being we naturally assist them to be happy within their life. When we assist another to be happy we feel the happiness that we have been searching for our whole life.