Do You Find Relationships Difficult?

Do you find relationships difficult?

If so, you may find that a key attribute within your relationships is the common practice of asking for more from the other person. This practice usually starts early in a relationship and gains momentum as each person endeavours to be self-honouring by asking for more.

When we ask for more from another person our expectations build, our disappointment grows and our resentment towards one another is solidified. It is the level of resentment within our relationships which determines how difficult they are.

When we resent one another, we no longer experience the joy and fulfilment associated with cultivating mutually beneficial outcomes. Without joy and fulfilment to buffer us from the difficulties within our relationships, those relationships can appear pointless and painful.

So what is the answer?

First, we must let go of asking for more from the ones that we love. By doing this, we allow those around us to be the best they can be. Because human beings are at their best when they are authentic i.e. when they allow themselves to be exactly as they are right now.

Secondly, ask for what you want. Asking for what you want is completely self-honouring and mutually beneficial when it is coupled with benevolence. Ask for what you want without implying that another person needs to give it to you and you will be benevolent, self-honouring and mutually beneficial in all of your relationships.