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The Beauty of Humanity

There are literally billions of people just waiting to be discovered. Not in a professional or economic sense, as we have already uncovered these aspects within our western society. What is yet to be discovered is the relational potential within each and every human being that you meet. Unlike our professional and economic potential, our…

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The Real Antonym of Spiritual

“The real antonym, or opposite, of spiritual is not material… it’s egotistical.” – Michael Pollan Spirituality can be described as a reconnection with ourselves, one another and all of life. When we look at the material world with a spiritual intention, all we see is that which can be shared. It is through the process…

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One Complete Truth

If you are looking for one complete truth, you cannot find it. Science has not been able to produce a theory of everything. Religion has been unable to agree upon one compelling truth. Humanity may not be able to articulate the complete truth. However, what if we could feel this truth? If we can accept…

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What You Are

‘It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.’ – Andre Gide It can be compelling to strive for something that you are not. But what is the benefit of even the most extraordinary feat if it is not derived from your heart, if it…

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Are You Trying to Be Better?

Everybody is trying to be the best. We compete with one another in our sports, in our jobs and in our relationships. The paradox of competition is that nobody likes someone who is constantly trying to be better than them. As much as we want to be better than another person is as much as…

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Let Go

Often our strength is exemplified in our ability to let go, rather than our ability to hold on. Let go of circumstances which are no longer mutually beneficial to you and those you love… there, you will experience true strength.

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You Matter

“No matter what you do, you will never amount to anything more than a single drop in a limitless ocean.” … “What is an ocean but a multitude of drops?” – Hugo Weaving and Jim Sturgess, Cloud Atlas Our lives feed the life of everything on our planet; our families, our friends, our cultures, our…

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Despair

So many fall into despair when life does not open up to them. But what if life was not here for us, what if we were alive in order to open up to life? Open up to the immeasurable magnitude of life and you will be in awe of what you find.

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Human Potential

Human potential is important. When we talk about potential, we often think about how our potential can impact upon our lifestyle and possessions. However, what if our potential is much more important than simply achieving more? When we look at our lives, it becomes evident that they are impacted by both quantitative and qualitative experiences….

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A New Consciousness

“A new consciousness is developing which sees the Earth as a single organism and recognises that an organism at war with itself is doomed.” – Carl Sagan Our relationships, like the Earth, cannot withstand war. Let go of resentment and validate those you are in relationship with. Because, in reality, the most valuable artillery we…

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Do You Find Relationships Difficult?

Do you find relationships difficult? If so, you may find that a key attribute within your relationships is the common practice of asking for more from the other person. This practice usually starts early in a relationship and gains momentum as each person endeavours to be self-honouring by asking for more. When we ask for…

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Acknowledge What is Real

It is important to acknowledge what is real for us. Acknowledging what is real frees us from judgement and allows us to place our focus on how we can contribute within our lives and towards one another’s happiness. Human beings become judgemental when they fail to express what they are experiencing right now, whether it…

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Why Are You Here?

“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life – daily and hourly.”– Viktor E. Frankl We are all constantly being questioned by…

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Attention is Important

The quality of our attention is important. It is attention that allows us to truly acknowledge the people we love. It is attention that allows us to move towards what we want for ourselves and for each other. It is attention that brings to life whatever we choose to imagine. We can improve the quality…

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Making Mistakes

Don’t try to avoid mistakes, because you are going to make mistakes… you are allowed to make mistakes. Take an approach within your relationships that will allow happiness to flourish for each individual, while also allowing for ample mistakes to be made. This approach can be established upon the solid foundations of compassion, gratitude, and…

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Embracing Dragons

The dragons in our lives are not there to be slain… they are there to be embraced. Because it is in the embrace of our dragons that we come to experience their true nature.

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Activate Your Potential

Life is more about activating the potential within us than condemning the transgressions of others. So many of us walk around trying to get what we want by condemning everything that we disapprove of. This works to a degree, but it has some limitations. The primary limitation exists within our point of focus. When we…

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To Live in Fear

“Terrible thing to live in fear. All I want is to be back where things make sense, where I won’t have to be afraid all the time.” – Morgan Freeman, The Shawshank Redemption Often, we live in fear when we don’t understand what is happening in our lives. The overt experience of your life is…

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Accessing the Profound

Do you want to experience deeper connections with the ones you love? If you want to make your life deeper with willpower alone… you can’t. This is because our capacity for depth and connection is derived from our direct experience as human beings. Through transcendent states of consciousness, we are able to experience ourselves on…

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The Transition to Adult Fulfilment

The growth from childhood fulfilment to adult fulfilment is one where we re-direct our focus from ourselves (as children) to our family, friends and society (as adults). Adolescence can be a difficult time filled with growing pains and hormonal changes. Fortunately, this period of life is often accompanied by ample time to experience both childhood…

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Heroic Truth

‘If thou workest at that which is before thee, following right reason seriously, vigorously, calmly, without allowing anything else to distract thee, but keeping thy divine part pure, as if thou shouldst be bound to give it back immediately; if thou holdest to this, expecting nothing, fearing nothing, but satisfied with thy present activity according…

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Being Offended

Being offended says more about the judgement that we place upon others, than it suggests they have done something wrong. Being offended is used as a covert form of judgemental expression (invalidation). It is commonly experienced by quiet individuals who are unwilling to express what they truly want. Although it is quiet, it is no…

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How to Be Intimate

Intimacy can be defined as ‘close familiarity or friendship’. It is also knowns as ‘into me I see’, meaning that I see what is happening inside of myself. When we can truly ‘see’ something, we are able to express it towards one another. Therefore, intimacy is the ability to express what is happening inside of…

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Love, No Matter What

”I said to her ‘what do you think you did that helped him to emerge as this charming, accomplished, wonderful person?’ She said ‘what did I do?… I loved him, that’s all. Clinton just always had that light in him and his father and I were lucky enough to be the first to see it…

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Criticism

As much as we criticise, is as much as we are unable to embrace authenticity.   Criticism is the abrasive expression of invalidation. It causes friction within our relationships and evokes fragmentation within human beings, particularly within those who express it.   It can be very difficult for our minds to stop invalidating after so…

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Good and Evil

“The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either — but right through every human heart — and through all human hearts. This line shifts. Inside us, it oscillates with the years. And even within hearts overwhelmed by evil, one small bridgehead of good is retained.”…

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Finding Fault

As much as we find fault within ourselves is as much as we look for fault within one another.   Human beings are simply a fragment within a universal system. Therefore, when we look at ourselves in isolation, we can appear to be incomplete… to be imperfect. When we choose to see ourselves in this…

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Accessing Evolution

When we stop trying to change the things outside of our control, our attention naturally rests within who we are and how we can evolve in a mutually beneficial way.

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Run Into Life

“Don’t run away from life. Run into life.” – Swami Niranjanananda   Come to life by facing and embracing the circumstances that you have been running away from.

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Bypass Arguments

The best way to bypass an argument is to acknowledge that we don’t have time for it. The most effective way to do this is to acknowledge and affirm who we are and what we stand for, while also affirming everyone who is before us right now.

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Authentic Freedom

Freedom comes in many shapes and sizes.   Many believe that freedom is something that must be earnt, something that must be won. This perspective becomes relevant when ‘freedom’ is our focus…. and it doesn’t have to be this way.   Freedom can be accessed through wanting what is best for one another. When we…

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Enable Others to Live

‘Let us not surrender our lives, let us find the spontaneity and joy of life inside ourselves. Then, not only will we live our lives more abundantly, but we will enable others to live as well… perhaps even for the first time.’ – Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette

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Compromise

Compromise is an agreement that does not truly satisfy us.   Compromise is encouraged by the idea that we are in competition with one another. It provides satisfaction through the belief that another person has had to sacrifice what they want for us.   Compromise is only necessary for those who cannot feel. Freeing ourselves…

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Are You Awake?

Are you awake? Have you arrived? Does it feel like you have ever been alive? Or does it feel like this has only just begun?   Living in the past and the future prevents us from connecting with one another and experiencing life.   When we live in the past there are many memories which…

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Gratitude

“Gratitude is Confidence in life itself. In it, we feel how the same force that pushes grass through cracks in the sidewalk invigorates our own life.” – Jack Kornfield   Let’s practice gratitude and notice as we move through the cracks and beyond the barriers that we have experienced in the past.

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Courage

It takes courage to express what we love, when it seems that everyone else is focusing on what they hate.   When we express a loving perspective, we are often countered by those who see things differently. When we spend time with people who do not see life in a loving way, we can find…

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Validation

Do you feel unconfident?   The issue that proliferates a lack of confidence is absence of validation. If we knew that we would be validated in everything that we pursued, our confidence would be substantially higher. High enough to try anything once; high enough to let go of overthinking everything.   The best way to…

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Touching Reality

‘Contemplation is any way one has of penetrating illusion and touching reality.’ – Parker Palmer   Contemplation is important for us as human beings. Through contemplation we can reflect on our life, our actions and our relationships. It is within this reflection that we can touch reality in depth.   The practice of contemplation can…

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Losing Touch?

As much as we lose touch with ourselves is as much as we become needy in the world and with one another.   The resolution to neediness occurs as we connect with our body and through our breath.

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Sharing Happiness

Do you want to bring happiness into the life of someone who you love?   The first step in the process of sharing happiness is to start cultivating happiness with ourselves.   When we are able to experience happiness without needing anything from another, we will naturally share our happiness with them…. without any effort,…

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Wellbeing

“(When) each can connect with what’s alive in each other, it has been my experience that people then enjoy contributing to one another’s well-being.” – Marshall Rosenberg   When we can feel what is alive within ourselves, we are able to truly connect with what is alive within one another. Through real (alive) connection we…

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From the Inside Out

We have the choice to create our life from the ‘outside in’ or the ‘inside out’.   When we endeavour to create our life from the ‘outside in’; we gravitate towards changing things outside of ourselves in order to create a profound shift in how we are acting, thinking and feeling. When we approach life…

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The Mutually Beneficial Perspective

Do you ever get the feeling that the universe is against you?   Life can be the harshest of tribulations and the greenest of pastures. Moment by moment, the quality of our life can swing from one extreme to the other. This experience appears to be reflected in the life of every admirable human being…

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The Bedrock of Our Happiness

“They used to say that a child conceived in love has a greater chance of happiness. They don’t say that anymore.” – Ethan Hawke, Gattaca   A world where love is not the bedrock of our happiness is a world of segregation and suffering.

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You Are Worthy

Authentic relationships require both of us to experience and express our authenticity. To do this, we must let go of our thoughts and the thoughts of others. This is a difficult, but necessary, odyssey. Within a society where we are often told how we ‘should’ act, think and feel; letting go of our thoughts allows…

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It Is All Significant

It is all significant; every moment of our life, every greeting, every glance… every human, every animal, every insect that we share our existence with.   We must see it all as significant; every beautiful human being, every vitriolic expression, every kind action, every deliberate denial, every euphoric feeling and every gaping wound. Because it…

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Let’s Talk

Talking is one of the most powerful forms of engagement that we have. We can choose to talk our way out of relationships or utilise our conversations to evoke love within our relationships. When we talk, we have two choices: We can talk about people or we can talk with human beings.   When we…

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Pathmaker

‘Pathmaker, your footsteps are the path and nothing more; pathmaker, there is no path, you make the path by walking’ – Antonio Machado   Don’t be fooled by the open spaces and the pavement beneath your feet. You are a pathmaker… and you create your pathway through life with every action that you take, every…

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Why Do We Care?

It is what we care about that focuses our attention on what matters. But what if we cared about things that don’t really matter… what would be our experience of life?   Many of us care about what other people think. It is this ‘caring’ that brings into focus our own thoughts and our hypothesis…

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Something Inside of You

“There is something inside of you that knows you’re in the centre, that knows you’re on the beam and know when you are off the beam… and if you get off the beam to earn money (or achieve something that you believe is worthwhile), you’ve lost your life.” – Joseph Campbell

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Why Are You in Relationship?

Relationships require two living creatures to come together in the pursuit of a common goal.   Issues arise within relationships when one, or both, of the participants believe that they need this relationship in order to experience specific outcomes within their lives. Where there is neediness within relationship, there will be manipulation and a lack…

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What If?

What if there is nothing that needs to be fixed?; What if there is nothing that needs to be done?; What if no one needs to change?; What would be the meaning in your life?   We can get caught up in trying to help ourselves and the ones who we love by attempting to…

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Thinking

“We can’t think our way out of a prison that is made of thought.” – Krishna Das

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Be Human

Through the ages and the pages we have sought to be right, And it was the actions that we took which saw the beginning of our plight, When I see the world through black and through white, This signifies the birth of a being who is right.   When we want to be right, the…

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How to Evoke Trust

It is our ability to rejoice in the success of another which determines the depth and quality of our relationships.   When we rejoice in the success of another, we evoke trust within our relationships. We do this by highlighting how we are the same as one another, rather than different. When we rejoice in…

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Being Lost

Being lost allows us to remember who we are.   Without the experience of loss there is no desire to explore. And even if we did explore, without empty space inside of our hearts, we could not love the beauty that we experience out there in the world and within the lost parts of ourselves.

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Maybe Love Means More

“Maybe (love) means more – something we can’t understand yet. Maybe it’s some evidence, some artifact of a higher dimension that we can’t consciously perceive… Love is the one thing that we’re capable of perceiving that transcends dimensions of time and space. Maybe we should trust that, even if we can’t understand it.” – Anne…

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First We Must Be

It is easy to get what we want in the physical world. Our society is set up to allow quick and easy access to the necessities of life. Given that we have access to the necessities of life, why is it that life is so hard?   It is the quick and easy access to…

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Intuition Speaks

Intuition speaks in sensations and feelings.   When we connect with our sensations and feelings, we gain access to our intuitive awareness. It is through intuitive awareness that we can unlock the hidden opportunities available to us within our life and within ourselves.

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The Shape of Love

“Unable to perceive the shape of you, I find you all around me. Your presence fills my eyes with your love, it humbles my heart, for you are everywhere.” – Richard Jenkins, The Shape of Water

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Value Relationships

Money allows us to experience many things. However, the value that we receive from all that we do, with our money, is determined by the quality of love that we feel within our bodies.   A human being who feels a high quality of love within their body will experience every aspect of their life…

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The Funny Thing About Change

The funny thing about change, is that things cannot stay the same.   We can look at life like a stagnant experience, something that requires effort in order to change. However this could not be further from the truth. The reality of life is change… change in our environment, change in our society and change…

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Love Lies Beyond

True love lies beyond joy, beyond sadness, beyond right, beyond wrong, beyond pleasure and beyond pain. There is nothing that can take us there and there is nothing that can stop us… because love exists within the heart of every living creature.

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Becoming a True Adult

Children need their parent’s acceptance, as this is crucial for their survival. True adults do not require acceptance in order to survive, all they require is their own love.   A crucial aspect of ‘growing up’ is moving past the need for acceptance. When we acknowledge that we no longer need acceptance in order to…

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The Beginning of Humanity

“When you are awakened, at the level of the heart, to compassion and to suffering with the other person… that’s the beginning of humanity.” – Joseph Campbell

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Where does regret begin?

Regret is something that we have all experienced. Whether it is something that we are living with right now or it has been a forgettable experience from our past, it is accurate to say that we are not alone. Regret is experienced when we feel sad about the past because of something that we have…

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Reaching our true potential

Our goal in life is live out our true potential. This is a valiant goal, yet one which many of us fall short of. The question is why does another reach their true potential when we have not? The answer to this questions is very simple: It is all a matter of perspective.   What…

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What is evolution?

Evolution is defined as the process by which living organisms are believed to have developed from earlier life-forms.   The term Evolution is most commonly applied to the biological organism that is our body. We tend to attribute evolution to increased efficiency within our physical experience. Although true, this way of perceiving evolution requires us…

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How to be a genius

“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” – Michelangelo.   In one sentence this 15th century sculptor outlines the foundation of all true genius. Genius is not about changing the world that we are living in. It is about seeing the potential within ourself, another and all of…

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Why do we hurt?

We have been forced to endure seemingly endless hurt within our life. This hurt appears to come from the aggression, cruelty and terror which has been inflicted upon us in the physical world. However, what if hurt is not derived from the physical? What if the foundation of our hurt could be experienced and resolved…

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Why do we hate work?

When we look up the word ‘work’ in our Western dictionaries we find that it has a multitude of different definitions, the most holistic of which is ‘exertion or effort directed to produce or accomplish something.’ This definition really reflects the way that many of our parents and friends have come to view their work….

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How to discern our ability to relate

We tend to judge everything within our Western Society. Judgement is intended to help us improve that which we are judging. However judgement always has a detrimental impact on our life and the life of those whom we judge. This detrimental impact is evident in our ability to relate within our life in this present…

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Is money the root of all evil?

Within certain circumstances money can appear to be the root of all evil e.g. when a family is torn apart by the craving for their deceased relatives estate. However what if money is not the root of all evil; what if there is a characteristic within humanity, rather than money, which is more worthy of…

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How to be happy

‘All unhappiness comes from trying to make ourself happy and all happiness is derived from assisting another to be happy’ – Shantideva.   Happiness is a feeling that arises naturally when we assist another to be happy. In order to feel happy we must first be able to feel what is happening within our body….

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Time is infinite

The way that we experience time has a massive impact on the quality of relationships that we create within our life. When we experience time as finite we inevitably express judgement, this expression leads to the formation of disconnected relationships. In comparison, when we experience time as infinite we naturally express gratitude, this expression leads…

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What does it mean to feel strong?

‘I have come to realise how important it is in this life to feel strong. Not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong. To test ourself just once. To stand in front of the great unknown and know that we can handle whatever comes our way.’ ~ Christopher McCandless (Into the wild)   Strength…

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What is the cause of suffering?

We have come to accept suffering as a part of our life, as if suffering and life are the same thing. This idea has been proliferated by our Western Society’s fixation on comfort and evoking this experience through allowing us to avoid taking part in life. Our society has done this through the proliferation of…

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How to resolve addiction

Addiction is a commonly misunderstood condition within our western society. Our misunderstanding comes from a series of scientific studies that were conducted in the 1960s. In these studies scientists placed a rat in a solitary cage, gave them no ability to interact with their own species and even starved them for periods of up to…

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Possession: The idea that prevents connection

When we choose to take possession of anything we immediately place expectation on that which we are possessing. When we are in possession of anything we expect it to act and react in certain ways towards us. If our expectations are not met we then judge it as wrong and attempt to avoid relationship with…

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Relationships are everything

As human beings our life is made up by a myriad of relationships. We are in relationship with everyone and everything within our life, this includes that which we interact with and that which we think of. The word ‘relationship’ is summed up by the word ‘connection’. We are connected to everyone and everything within…

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Change starts with us

Change is constant within our life. As human beings we are constantly changing on a biological level. Our biological change is so intense that every 10 years our body completely replaces every one of its cells. This means that we are not who we were, on a biological level, just 10 years ago. So the…

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Wanting is loving

In our society we are told that we are selfish if we want “too much” in our life. This idea of wanting “too much” comes from the misperception of what wanting actually is. Wanting is not an experience that we can resolve, remove or have control over. Wanting is a natural by-product of being human….

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Pain is not real

In our western society we are obsessed with numbing our pain; whether it be our physical pain with pain killers, our psychological pain with anti-depressants or our emotional pain with addictions. When we numb our pain we actually disconnect from the information that our body is sending us, we disconnect from the sensations that we…

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Freedom: The process of making all rules redundant

When we think about rules (or laws) they often bring to mind a repression of our freedom. Because of the repression that rules symbolise, many of us try to remove ourself from them or contradict them completely; this all stems from a simple misperception. The truth is that rules are actually designed to help us…

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How to meditate

In our western culture we tend to pitch meditation as something to ‘do’ that is separate from everything else in our life. We have a belief that meditation can only happen when we are sitting in a serene environment by ourself or with another who wants to be as peaceful as we do. However this…

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The true nature of all doing: Feeling

Why do we do what we do? When we look at it from the perspective of a person (someone who is separate from life) we do things in order to get something in return: money, support, relationships etc. As a person we want to get enough so that we can be in a position where…

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The meaning of life

When I first searched for the meaning of life I looked to what I had experienced in my past; thoughts and physical actions. However these experiences clearly did not hold the answer to my question, as I searched for years only to find that nothing had a fundamental meaning or purpose. I came to the…

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Can we handle the truth?

When I was growing up I saw so many human beings trying to argue the truth (usually expressed as a belief). I saw this tendency in my family, in my friends, on television and within myself. I never really questioned what this truth, that everybody was arguing, really was. Until one day I came across…

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4 layers of human experience

As human beings, the way that we experience life changes the very life that we are experiencing. This is important because it shows that we have the power to impact our life and everything that we experience within it. The question is: how can we change?   Let us start with the four layers of human…

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The underlying cause of all failed relationships: Judgement

There was a scientific study conducted by an American university where they set up a house with high-tech video cameras that were able to detect subtle facial expressions that the human eye cannot see. The scientists set the video cameras specifically to detect the subtle facial expressions that indicated judgement.   Couples were invited to…

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There is no other, there is only another

Have you heard how we refer to ourself, another and all of life? We can say things like “I don’t like that part of myself”, “That person is a bad person”, “I don’t like that thing” or “life is hard”. When we do we are implying that whatever we are referring to is separate from…

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What if we are more than just a person?

How do we define ourself as a human being?   Let us start with the word ‘person’. The definition of a person is ‘a human being that has been identified as an individual’. An individual is defined as ‘something that is single or separate’. So we have defined ourself as something that is separate from…

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Welcome to a new way of life

Have you ever wondered why we continue to experience so much suffering in our life?   We are incredibly intelligent creatures and we have the ability to resolve all of the suffering in our life within our lifetime. The only reason why we have not done this yet is because we have been looking in…

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